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Symptoms of Inner Peace

  1. Frequent attack of smiling.
  2. Frequent overwhelming episodes of Appreciation.
  3. Loss of interest in Judging other people.
  4. Loss of ability to Worry.
  5. Tendency to act based on Hope rather than on fear.
  6. Ability to Enjoy Each Moment.
  7. Ability to Give & Receive Love { in-spite of life’s problems}.
  8. Sharing whatever little you have with people having less in life.

Simple ways of inner peace . 

Once you follow any of these you will get closer & closer to the best feeling of relaxation & inner bliss .
Sometimes you have more but because you do not have inner peace you feel you have nothing .
Sometimes you have nothing but because you have inner hope , peace you are the most satisfied person in this world .

Inner peace is the most precious .

What gives you true inner peace ?

Relationship Paste

The Relationship Paste

WHAT KEEPS A BOND STRONG

 

  1. LAUGHTER
  2. PLANNED TIME ALONE
  3. PHYSICAL AFFECTION
  4. TEAM WORK
  5. SHARING EMOTIONS
  6. SHARING INTERESTS
  7. GRATITUDE FOR EACH OTHER
  8. SPONTANEITY
  9. SEX

 

Do you want to add anything in the relationship paste ? What’s your list ? Here is a list we are giving you to start making efforts to make your bond stronger with your partner ! The more you add to the paste the stronger your bond will become ! It’s the recipe for you two so make it as enriched as you can !

Strong relationship

Tips to make relationships

  1. WORK ON TONE OF VOICE WITH YOUR PARTNER.
  2. MAKE AN EFFORT TO TOUCH YOUR PARTNER MORE OFTEN.
  3. EXPRESS EMOTIONAL MOVEMENT FOR YOUR PARTNER.
  4. INCREASE A KNOWLEDGE EACH DAY ABOUT YOUR PARTNER.
  5. BE OPEN TO YOUR PARTNER’S
Build your relationship 

-Tone of voice has been found as the best predictor for marital success (Nasir et al,2015) .
-Touch:- It increases relationship satisfaction and leads to easier conflict resolution . Eg:- hugs , hand holding , kissing and back rubs .
-Instead of emotional appreciation or gratitude reward your partner in an emotionally powerful way it will add emotional richness to the relationship. Eg:-I felt so cared for and close for you when you brought me lunch.
-Make consistent attempts to understand your partner it will make you both more resilient.
-Let go of the idea that your view is the only reality. The relationship is more important than your argument. -Eye contact builds trust ,creates positive feelings and communicate love . It can repair distressed relationships.

Emotional Resilience

Emotional Resilience Adapting to the troubles of life

Emotional Resilience is the process of adapting oneself well to face any significant source of trouble or problem in one’s life. We all have gone through difficult phases in life at some point or the other. It is our emotional resilience that makes us deal with tough times calmly along with solid mental health. It doesn’t mean avoiding the experience of difficulty or distress, but rather, it means an ability to ‘bounce back’ swiftly from these difficult experiences. Some people have a natural ability to face challenges and stress calmly but for many, emotional Resilience is a skill that can be learned or developed. It helps you be able to help yourself and manage your mental health better despite stressful situations, terrible experiences, or medical issues that arise.

 

Positive Thoughts

 

Positive thoughts play a crucial role in developing emotional resilience. It makes people more flexible by understanding the situation with clarity by looking at the future and realism. One of the foundations of resilience is the core beliefs of positive thoughts. Positive thoughts motivate people to keep going and come out strong from the tough times. The saying “tough times do not last, but tough people do” is valid for all who fight back and emerge as a more assertive person. Because tough times are not permanent, our spirit and our positive mind play a crucial role in fighting all kinds of battles and emerging as a winner. Emotional resilience helps people quickly adapt to sudden changes or jolts and strike a balance to survive the most challenging life situations.

Finding the right opportunities to increase positivity is also necessary. Since negative incidents are natural, they will always be a part of life, but you can reduce their impact by improving the positive vibes around you by finding good in everything that happens. This can only be done by developing empathy in yourself for your own and others’ experiences.

 

Ways to Develop Emotional Resilience

 

There are various ways of boosting your resilience that I can guide you with, starting with developing Self-Understanding. This makes you understand your strengths and further improve on them. Another thing is Self-Awareness; it is the first step towards accepting the situation and identifying solutions by making positive decisions.

Once you know your stressors and understand your shortcomings, you will learn how to fight them out. It starts with an insight into who we are and what we want to do to make things better for us. We need to understand ourselves and build a relationship to cope with our stressors, learn our lessons and soothe ourselves.

Another aspect of building emotional resilience is Social Connections. Having excellent social connections have always helped people to become more resilient person.

There are a lot of benefits of building your social contacts as it can help you express yourself better and understand the difference between right & wrong. In a way, it contributes to your happiness and enables you to reframe your thinking. Social connections also lead to your greater mental and healthy well-being. Having your family and friends around in times of distress helps to reduce your stress level by providing support in tough times as they provide you with an assurance that this too shall pass and good times shall be back soon.

Instilling that emotions are not everlasting makes your tolerance level higher.

Understanding that emotions come and go will give you the strength to sit calmly through the storm and let it pass naturally without havoc.

 

Finding a True Purpose to Build Emotional Resilience

 

Finding a true purpose in your life is a must for anything to have permanence. Once we realize this, we process every situation organically and think about what happened and how it could be handled differently to end it. This will help you with an opportunity to reframe the stories you tell yourself & give you space for a healthy reflection. Once you find your true purpose, it will lead you to your path in life. We could try to form a habit of thinking differently.

Like we can create a diary and pen down our ways of coping with hurdles of life. One should always find new ways of learning & new coping strategies which work for you differently. Your past can teach you the difference also. If nothing is working the way you want it to be, seek counselling and ask for help. There is no shame in that. If you feel you cannot process and handle stuck, you can build your Resilience with professional help.

 

Healthy Body and Mind

 

The only way towards being a resilient person is to focus on a holistic Self. Taking care of your body & mind regularly will help you process your emotions without judgement and assist you in decision making & strengthen you to face challenges.According to the analysis of Resilience & mental health, Resilience is negatively correlated with indicators of mental well-being like depression, anxiety & negative emotions and positively related with positive indicators such as Satisfaction, Happiness, and other positive emotions.

Resilience gives you the strength to overcome what life throws at you. If resilience is low, it is easy to get overwhelmed and turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Various clients have shown resilience & fought battles of their mental illness like depression or anxiety by overcoming each day with hope. Resilience also plays a significant role to help you balance your life and various parts, thereby protecting your mental & physical health. It further helps in managing emotions & stress. Being resilient makes you a master at Problem Solving & Learning and also help you cope with grief, loss & trauma. It develops a positive self-image.

As a psychologist, I would say that resilience happens when you make a conscious choice to bet on yourself. Choose yourself every minute of the day so that you can craft a beautiful future to the best of your ability and lead a happy life.